They say life is all about balance. If you’re anything like me, though, it can feel like an impossible task to balance all of the building blocks of your life – the relationships, the work, the household responsibilities, the hobbies, the social events, spirituality, fitness, and so on.
With the right perspective, however, I’ve realized that everything will get done…eventually. I used to try and do everything the second I saw the need, or it would stress me out. If there was laundry on the bed it needed to be folded. If the floors were sticky they needed to be washed. If the blocks were scattered they needed to be put away. Obviously as a stay-at-home-mom I could literally spend my entire day cleaning up mess after mess after mess. But this is not how I want to spend my time. So each mess does not get cleaned up right away. And I am learning to still remain calm, happy, and present. I look at each mess or area that requires my attention and notice it. “The shelf is dusty”. “I haven’t exercised in a few days.” And then I move on. I continue making the lunch or reading a book to my kids or getting ready to head to a playground. But I don’t panic and drop everything to get rid of that dust, and I don’t begin ruminating over the cycle of thoughts that sound something like “My house is so messy, I can never stay on top of it all, I have so much to do and not enough time, blah blah blah”. Because then I’ve stepped out of the present moment and I’ve all of a sudden become a grumpier more stressed out person. Instead, I notice the dust and move on. No judgement.
It’s not easy to merely observe something without placing judgement. What’s helped me with this skill is that I’ve begun to notice that all the things on my “to-do” list eventually do get done. Not in one day, but eventually. In order to give my attention over to the most important tasks, I remind myself that “something’s gotta give”.
I like to think that those things that truly matter – those tasks, moments, relationships that were most needing my attention, my time- will get done that day. Perhaps the floors don’t get washed one week, or my dinners aren’t home-cooked every night, or the dishes sit in the sink just one more day, or the laundry doesn’t get folded right away. Something always has to give in order to make time for the most important things: the trips to the park, the snuggles before nap time, the library visits to stock up on new books, the coffee dates with dear friends, the Netflix shows with husband. The time to sit and write. The 20 minutes on my yoga mat.
When I’ve taken the time to feed my soul with these nourishing things, I notice the floors all of a sudden do get washed. And a homemeade dinner is put in the slow cooker. And I somehow get energized for that walk. And another load of laundry gets put away.
Everything that needs to get done, does get done. I just need to slow down and open my eyes wide enough to see it happening.