Friendship · Mental health · Mindfulness

“We are good people before we ever write a word”

Writers get confused. We think writing gives us an excuse for being alive. We forget that being alive is unconditional and that life and writing are two separate entities. Often we use writing as a way to receive notice, attention, love. “See what I wrote. I must be a good person.” We are good people… Continue reading “We are good people before we ever write a word”

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My marriage is not 50-50…and I’m OK with that

I am one of the many excited people counting down the days until November 25, when I will gather with friends in front of Netflix…and binge watch A Year In the Life. As much as the character Emily Gilmore drives me crazy, when she spoke these words to her daughter in Season 7, for an… Continue reading My marriage is not 50-50…and I’m OK with that

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What true hospitality feels like

I have this friend who just moved into a stunning home with her family. The house itself is still undergoing lots of construction, leaving her in a daily work zone. Thick layers of saw dust cover her kitchen table and quartz countertops, unpacked boxes live in every room, workers enter her house around the clock.… Continue reading What true hospitality feels like

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When loneliness comes knocking

I am in the backyard with my kids, I’ve planted myself on the porch steps with a mug of green tea. It’s tasteless and unsatisfying but the warmth is what I want right now. My husband is away on a sailing trip for the weekend and so my Saturday has been focused on the kids,… Continue reading When loneliness comes knocking

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A bad risotto shows me that I am better than I was before

One of the qualities I admire most in my young children is their ability to live life with the ultimate “que sera, sera” attitude. They wake up in the morning and their job is to just show up. Whatever we end up doing, they have fun. They don’t hold an ideal in their head of how… Continue reading A bad risotto shows me that I am better than I was before

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Is Relaxing What You’re Really Doing?

“There are times when we stop, we sit still. We listen and breezes from a whole other world begin to whisper.” ― James Carroll I often turn on a TV show in the name of relaxation when what I am really doing is checking out. I’m using TV as a distraction, either from things I… Continue reading Is Relaxing What You’re Really Doing?

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How I’m Training Myself to Salivate Just Like Pavlov’s Dogs

I use to work at a summer job with two girls who started a regular workout routine for themselves. They bought the new flashy sneakers and wore the layers of colorful tank tops. For the workout routine they would go for a long walk during their lunch break. And after every walk they would each… Continue reading How I’m Training Myself to Salivate Just Like Pavlov’s Dogs